Thantophobia

TRIGGER WARNING!

I really don’t want to talk about this.

Lately, I have not been in a good place. This is because I suffer from thantophobia, the fear of death. I have been going through this for the last 5 years, give or take. It is really hard to talk about and I’m not sure I will get through this post without having a panic attack, but I need to get this thought out of my head.

My fear is not the manner in which I die, that doesn’t concern me. I don’t think about that. The fear is what comes after. Generally, I am a very open-minded person. I am not religious or spiritual, I don’t follow any type of belief system, but I don’t not believe believe anything either. I won’t be the guy to say whether or not something is real or fake because I don’t know anything. I know nothing, at the end of the day. But when it comes to dying, nothing can sway the thought of eternal oblivion.

I can’t talk about “would you rather” questions like “would you rather die of cold or die of heat?”, I can’t even consider becoming an organ donor (even though I want to because it’s a great thing to do), I can’t even sleep sometimes because I’m afraid I won’t wake up. If death is like a dreamless sleep, how can I go to sleep knowing that?

Usually, I can somewhat keep the thoughts away with grounding techniques, games, reading, or just consuming myself in some random activity but today has been so bad. The thoughts will not go. I don’t know what the solution is. I don’t see a way out. Death is going to happen, there is nothing I can do about it. I keep having panic attacks; I can’t calm down. I don’t know what to do.

If anyone has advice, do leave a comment. I’ll pretty much listen to anything.

Thanks

Essential Oils and Aromatherapy

I have always been trying out different ways to relax and reduce stress and one of the things I tried is using essential oils.

Believe it or not, aromatherapy can have a huge impact on your body and mind, affecting the way you think and feel. There are many ways in which to use essential oils, and many benefits you can receive from them.

Make sure that any oils you use cosmetically are therapeutic grade, otherwise they may irritate your skin.

Burning Them

How: To burn essential oils, you can get an oil burner or an oil diffuser (see links at the end of this post).

Benefits: Easier breathing – reduces inflammations and congestion, improves cognitive function, freshen the room.

Oil diffusers and burners tend to be cheaper than candles, so you would be getting more for your money. Oils are also more potent than candles so you would be using a lot less, and the smell would fill the room more efficiently.

Room Spray

How: Essential Oils and water into a glass spray bottle (there is a recipe in the links below, I will also be working on some of my own).

Benefits: Simple and easy to make, it doesn’t require a ridiculous amount of extra chemicals. You can freshen up the room and decide what you want the room to smell like. There are no foreign chemicals that are dangerous to inhale, like a lot of other room sprays and air fresheners.

Perfume/Body spray

How: Essential Oils with either an oil base, or an alcohol base. Into a glass spray-bottle. There is a recipe in the links but try to be adventurous and use different scents.

Benefits: Much better for your skin. There aren’t any toxic ingredients that irritate your skin. It will smell a lot nicer and be your own personal scent. It is much, much cheaper than the fancy perfumes that usually don’t smell that nice anyway.

Hair

How: You can mix different oils together, or use just one oil. Simply rub a few drops into your hair (on their own or with your shampoo/conditioner).

Benefits: The main benefit is that you can target specific problems your hair may have. For example:

  • Thinning hair – Peppermint, tea tree
  • Fine hair – Aloe Vera
  • Dry hair – Shea Butter, avocado oil
  • Dry scalp – Chamomile, rosemary, thyme

Side note: Dr Bronner’s Castile Soap is very natural, with lots of essential oils. There are many scents to choose from (my favourites are green tea, citrus, and lavender, to name a few) or you can choose the plain one and add your own oils. You can use it on hair, skin, even to wash dishes.

Lotion/Body Butter

How: 75% solid carriers (coconut oil, shea butter, cocoa butter, etc.) with 25% liquid oils. There is a recipe in the link below with a method on how to make it.

Benefits: Specific to your skin’s needs, with no irritating or toxic ingredients.

Massage

How: Just rub oils into your skin. When you get a massage, ask the masseuse for a specific oil or bring your own blend.

Benefits: You can target specific muscle and joint pains, certain oils decrease pain. Makes a massage more smooth and relaxing, and leaves your skin feeling soft and hydrated after.

The added benefit to using homemade products is that you know that there is no animal products and no animal testing going into the things you use. Making any product you make vegan friendly.


QOTD: What essential oils work best for you? How do you use it? Where do you buy it?


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Getting Through a Panic Attack

Sometimes panic attacks are caused by overthinking and sometimes, you have no idea why it’s happening. These are some techniques to reduce anxiety and, hopefully, stop a panic attack in its tracks.

Disclaimer: Everybody is different so all of these might work for one person, while none of them work for another person.

Technique #1: Deep Breathing

Inhale for 3 seconds, exhale for 3 seconds. Repeat that 10 times. Regulating your breathing, lowers your heart rate, and automatically calms you down.

Make sure you breathe using the whole of your lungs. To do that, lay on your back and take deep breaths. Your tummy should expand as you inhale, and shrink as you exhale.

Technique #2: Redirecting Thoughts

What many people try to do is distract themselves with TV. The reason this doesn’t work is because watching TV doesn’t require a lot of brain activity, so you still think about the problem. You are telling yourself not to think about it, so you think about it more.

Redirecting thoughts is different. Instead of trying not to think about the problem, do an activity that requires your full attention. This way, your brain doesn’t have a chance to overthink things.

Some ideas: writing, painting, playing an instrument, sports, tidying the house.

Technique #3: Grounding Techniques

Grounding works well because most panic attacks are a worry about the past or the future. Grounding tries to bring you back to the present. There are 2 good methods.

The first is the 5-4-3-2-1 method. It works like this:

  • 5 things you can see
  • 4 things you can touch
  • 3 things you can hear
  • 2 things you can smell
  • 1 thing you can taste

The other method is to list 5 things to do with a certain category. The What’s Up – Mental Health App is good for this.

For example: 5 football teams, 5 colours, 5 songs by Madonna, etc…

 

QOTD: What method(s) do you use to get out of a panic attack?

 


 

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