My Life With Depression & Why I Keep Disappearing (personal update)

This will not be like my usual posts. This is more of a personal update.

When I started this blog, I wanted everything to be positive so I never wanted to talk about my struggle with depression. Now, I see how stupid that plan was because it isn’t easy to stay positive on a blog when everything in your head is negative. Ignoring it didn’t help so I just ended up avoiding work altogether. I would like this to change.

Addressing my depression isn’t about being positive or negative, it is about getting the reality of my illness into the open. And it is an illness. Some days I feel okay, I can get stuff done, I can cook, clean, and work until ridiculous hours of the morning. But then there are the bad days. The days where I can barely move, I can’t get out of bed, I can’t even begin to think about anything.

For a while there, a little over a month, things were pretty good. I thought maybe the depression was starting to go away since I was doing so much work and had so much motivation. But I was wrong. Since my last blog post, I have sat at this computer most every day trying to find motivation to write or draw or something; anything that I could put on here because I love this blog and I desperately want to keep it going so it can improve and grow.

So the question for me to figure out is what do I do now? I really don’t know. Maybe I will do more updates. I could talk more about personal stuff, more about the good and bad days of depression. This is temporary, I don’t know how long it will last but it will end.

 

Essential Oils and Aromatherapy

Believe it or not, aromatherapy can have a huge impact on your body and mind, affecting the way you think and feel. There are many ways in which to use essential oils, and many benefits you can receive from them.

Before we start, please visit my Essential Oils For Aromatherapy blog where I list different oils, what they are best used for, and what other oils complement them. This blog will focus on how to use oils and how it helps.

Make sure that any oils you use cosmetically is therapeutic grade, otherwise they can irritate your skin.

Burning Them

How: To burn essential oils, you can get an oil burner or an oil diffuser (see links at the end of this post).

Benefits: Easier breathing – reduces inflammations and congestion, improves cognitive function, freshen the room.

Oil diffusers and burners tend to be cheaper than candles, so you would be getting more for your money. Oils are also more potent than candles so you would be using a lot less, and the smell would fill the room more efficiently.

Room Spray

How: Essential Oils and water into a glass spray bottle (there is a recipe in the links below, I will also be working on some of my own).

Benefits: Simple and easy to make, it doesn’t require a ridiculous amount of extra chemicals. You can freshen up the room and decide what you want the room to smell like. There are no foreign chemicals that are dangerous to inhale, like a lot of other room sprays and air fresheners.

Perfume/Body spray

How: Essential Oils with either an oil base, or an alcohol base. Into a glass spray-bottle. There is a recipe in the links but try to be adventurous and use different scents.

Benefits: Much better for your skin. There aren’t any toxic ingredients that irritate your skin. It will smell a lot nicer and be your own personal scent. It is much, much cheaper than the fancy perfumes that usually don’t smell that nice anyway.

Hair

How: You can mix different oils together, or use just one oil. Simply rub a few drops into your hair (on their own or with your shampoo/conditioner).

Benefits: The main benefit is that you can target specific problems your hair may have. For example:

  • Thinning hair – Peppermint, tea tree
  • Fine hair – Aloe Vera
  • Dry hair – Shea Butter, avocado oil
  • Dry scalp – Chamomile, rosemary, thyme

Side note: Dr Bronner’s Castile Soap is very natural, with lots of essential oils. There are many scents to choose from (my favourites are green tea, citrus, and lavender, to name a few) or you can choose the plain one and add your own oils. You can use it on hair, skin, even to wash dishes.

Lotion/Body Butter

How: 75% solid carriers (coconut oil, shea butter, cocoa butter, etc.) with 25% liquid oils. There is a recipe in the link below with a method on how to make it.

Benefits: Specific to your skin’s needs, with no irritating or toxic ingredients.

Massage

How: Just rub oils into your skin. When you get a massage, ask the masseuse for a specific oil or bring your own blend.

Benefits: You can target specific muscle and joint pains, certain oils decrease pain. Makes a massage more smooth and relaxing, and leaves your skin feeling soft and hydrated after.

The added benefit to using homemade products is that you know that there is no animal products and no animal testing going into the things you use. Making any product you make vegan friendly.


QOTD: What essential oils work best for you? How do you use it? Where do you buy it?


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Goals of 2018…4 Months Later

Lose Weight

So far, I haven’t as much lost weight as I have maintained my weight. With that being said, I have changed diet quite a lot to include more vegetables and beans, and a lot less bread (which I have a tendency to comfort eat)

I have also been using the earthmiles app to encourage me to do more walking. They offer discounts on health and fitness foods, drinks, clothes, and other equipment.

6 Books Read

I have read one book so far: The Silence of the Lambs by Thomas Harris. I am currently reading 3 other books so, hopefully, I will finish those soon. I would say that I’m on schedule.

10 Projects Completed

I didn’t exactly specify what “project” meant exactly. I have been keeping busy. I have completed one drawing so far. I have about 4 other projects lined up.

Make Progress On Story

In November, I started to write a short story which developed into a linger story idea, possibly even a novel. I got stuck on a certain part of the plot and took a break to think about it. It’s been 6 months. I still haven’t figured it out. This is a goal that I am not keeping up with. I’m glad I didn’t this update, though, as it has reminded me to get back to work.

Start Selling on etsy

Since 4 months ago, I have adjusted and changed my goal ideas for selling things. I still want to sell stuff that I’ve made, but I have decided two things: a) I want to open my own shop on my own website, and, b) I want to out more focus into this blog and simply do not have the time to have a shop right now.

My Etsy shop is open and I’m selling a few bits, but for the time being, I don’t want to put anything else on there. So this goal is done.

100 Followers on this blog

I have high hopes for my blogs. I would like to have at least 100 followers on this blog and my other blog by the end of the year.

I know that if I want to achieve this, I have to keep the quality of my posts to a high (or higher) standard, and I need to post way more often. It had been hard for me to keep up to date with this blog, what with mental health getting in the way, but I will always keep trying to make this blog everything I want it to be.

Start Education Blog

Whoop! A goal I have actually done! My education blog is TFORCERAVEN, a name that I might change in the future; I am taking suggestions. I don’t post as often as I would like (big shocker there) but it is up! It exists and I have ideas and posts lined up and ready to happen.

 

To conclude, I think I am making good progress with my goals. My main goal (which isn’t listed here) is to take more time out of the day to work on my blogs. They have the potential to be really good and it sucks that right now, they aren’t so good.


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QOTD: What posts would you like to see on this blog?